Helpful Thoughts

Help with Depression:

Intimacy means that we are safe enough to reveal the truth about ourselves in all the creative chaos.  If two people are totally free to reveal their walls, then those walls, in time, will come down.

- Marianne Williamson

Healing from co-dependency entails filling that hunger with healthy, loving relationships with others and with yourself and creating a fulfilling life. “The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread” Mother Theresa
- Darlene Lancer

Have no fear of perfection, you’ll never reach it.
- Salvador Dali

We do not see things as they are. We see them as we are.
- The Talmud

Life is not the way it’s supposed to be. It’s the way it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference.
- Virginia Satir

When the heart weeps for what it has lost, the spirit laughs for what it has found.
- Sufi aphorism

Fear is a challenge and a task, because only boldness can deliver from fear. And if the risk is not taken, the meaning of life is somehow violated.
- Carl Jung

Loneliness does not come from having no people around you, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to you.
- Carl Jung

To die is poignantly bitter, but the idea of having to die without having lived is unbearable.
- Erich Fromm

I would rather be the child of a mother who has all the inner conflicts of the human being than be mothered by someone for whom all is easy and smooth, who knows all the answers, and is a stranger to doubt.
- DW Winnicott

Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways.
- Sigmund Freud

Therapy when practiced well is a fine but delicately balanced intervention in another person’s life. It requires a devotion to truth and a merciless pursuit of right living. Expertise in bringing people out of the darkness of a disappointed or bitter life into the light of a new vitality is hard earned. It is a privilege and a pleasure when it works well. But that level of engagement with clients is also extremely demanding and it can never be achieved by trotting out stereotyped tricks from approved textbooks.
― Emmy Van Deurzen

When I look at the world I’m pessimistic, but when I look at people I am optimistic.
- Carl Rogers

The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.
― Elizabeth Kubler-Ross and John Kessler

It is better to get rid of the problem and keep the person than to get rid of the person and keep the problem.
- Harville Hendrix

Follow your bliss and the universes will open doors for you where there were only walls.
- Joseph Campbell

Shame is a soul eating emotion
- Carl Jung

In my early professional years I was asking the question: How can I treat, or cure, or change this person? Now I would phrase the question in this way: How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?
- Carl Rogers

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens
- Carl Jung

Truly, it is in the darkness that one finds the light, so when we are in sorrow, then this light is nearest of all to us.
- Meister Eckhart

When we investigate, we find beneath the grief of anger a reservoir of sadness. And beneath that sadness, an ocean of love beyond our wildest dreams.
- Stephen Levine

It’s okay to struggle, it’s okay to wear (and own) your imperfections, and to fall flat on your face – as long as you keep reaching out for support and maintaining the courage to put one foot in front of the other.
- Doron Gill PhD

“No psychologist should pretend to understand what he does not understand… Only fools and charlatans know everything and understand nothing.”
- Anton Chekhov